NJ National Guard Recommendation

May 18, 2012 at 4:55 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment
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To My Fellow National Guard Child and Youth Program Colleagues,
It is with great pleasure that I recommend Keith Dunn, KDCOP, to you as a “Presenter of Excellence”. Keith Dunn is an expert in the field of cyber safety. Keith developed his love and expertise as a Detective for the Cumberland County Prosecutor’s Office. His degree in Criminal Justice and Computer Forensics, along with his insight as an active member of the National Internet Crimes against Children Task Force, and being proactively involved in the arrest and prosecution of internet predators and internet offenders promoted his creditability to our NJ Guard Teen Panel.
Beyond Keith Dunn’s credentials, he has a remarkable ability to connect with our military teens. This may be attributed to him being a former member of the United States Air Force. Keith represented his Country during Operation Desert Storm. During his tour on active duty, Keith performed as a singer and dancer for “Tops in Blue”, a USO type military performing group started and operated by Bob Hope. Keith incorporates storytelling and has a great sense of humor, which captivates the teens and leaves them wanting more.
Many of our Guard Teen Panel members have had the opportunity to witness Keith Dunn in their school assembly. Consistently, it is reported that Keith Dunn has a special gift of capturing the attention and interest of youth. The stories he tells, the way he interacts with his audience, and his willingness to listen creates an atmosphere that allows the teens to share their experiences and vulnerabilities. One of our teens stated, “Mr. Keith has really helped me to change the way I communicate on social media websites.” Another teen stated, “Keith Dunn made the dangers of social media become real to me. Before, I knew that danger existed, but his experience as an investigator really slapped me in the face and helped me to change my behavior online.”
Keith Dunn is exceptionally gifted. He is helping our teens change their behavior and protect themselves while on the internet. It is with great honor that I recommend him to your youth organizations. Knowledge is very powerful; however, converting knowledge into behavior change is the ultimate protection against being a victim or perpetrator of cyber crimes.
I am honored to have worked with Keith and I am very excited about working with him in the near future.
With Warm Regards,

Nicole L. Morgan- Lewis
NJ National Guard Youth Coordinator
State Family Programs
MPSC Contractor
1048 Route 206 South
Bordentown, NJ 08505


Blogtalkradio.com 9:00am show today

March 28, 2011 at 1:35 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment
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I had a great show today about cyber bullying in the spring time. Stay tuned every Monday at 9am fo my kdtalk radio shows. Next week we will be talking about teen’s sexting savy summer

Facebook Founder Stalked: Ironies in a Digital Age

February 8, 2011 at 3:31 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment
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This article was something that I think everyone should read. It doesn’t matter who you are, everyone can be a victim of cyber stalking. It is when things happen like in this article that it gets really scary….Can someone say CREEPER ALERT?

NBC Today show reports that Facebook founder, Mark Zuckerberg is a victim of cyber and physical stalking. Consider this fact-the person who created the hottest virtual space to openly share and connect with friends, family and business around the world is causality of his own creation. The stalker, Pradeep Mamukanda, has written rambling text asking Mr. Zuckerberg in an email for a position at Facebook. Mr. Mamukanda has stalked Mr. Zuckerberg online, went to his place of business and showed up outside his home with a bouquet of flowers.

Courts in California have issued a restraining order forbidding Mr. Mamukanda from being within 300 ft and to stop all communication with Mr. Zuckerberg. It makes one wonder the benefits of having your life an open book for people to know every last detail about you; likes, dislikes, events and places. Now with smart phones, GPS, location-based social networking and Facebook places, people can know your every move and be there to greet you whether you are expecting them or not.

It makes me wonder if this happen to the creator, founder and face of Facebook, what about the millions of people that have experienced a similar fate. Consider how easy it is to be found on Facebook. For that matter Google your name. I have met both individuals and families whose lives will never be the same, whose identities have been stolen and used against them. One example is a young single mom. A co-worker stole her identity, created a gmail and Facebook account in her name, started ‘friending’ friends only to harass and pester them. This man has stolen her cyber-identity, her life and peace of mind. She has had to close all her accounts, eliminate identifying elements on an email address. She is trying to repair the damage by reaching out to friends and family. Few believe her story.

As she explains her nightmare, it’s clear she has little recourse in the digital age. This man is technically savvy and has eluded local, state, federal and international law enforcement. This young woman is unable to interact in a digital world. Few people understand the stress that this has caused her. She is alone in a world that does not understand the consequences of cyber-stalking and identity theft. These are real people and real lives.

Mr. Zuckerberg has the clout and money to battle this latest setback in his personal/professional life; however, many people like Mr. Zuckerberg are without resources to fight back. Do you know the signs of cyber-stalking and cyber-bullying? If you believe you are a victim of cyber-stalking or identity theft, it’s important to:

• Not respond or engage with a cyber-stalker-bully

• Contact your service provider explain situation

• Change your phone, email and cell numbers

• Ask to block-trace phone

• Contact your local law enforcement

• Contact ISP to report abuse and close the account

• Change your email to a non-descript string that does not identify you.

• Activate all security settings on social networking sites and email accounts

In a digital and mobile world, we have a lot less protection. Our personal and professional lives are open as Facebook.

Cyber Safety Begins with Parents

September 30, 2010 at 3:12 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment
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I found this article on Google and I think it is just amazing. It is one of the few articles about how to keep your kids safe that gives you actual toold that you can use. Take a look and then tell me what you think.

Three key messages were reinforced for a room full of parents attending a cyber-bullying awareness program Wednesday night:

Children need parents to be their parents, not their friends.
Don’t believe “my kids would never …”
It’s the parents’ responsibility to monitor their children’s cellphone and Internet use.
Naperville Police Det. Richard Wistocki, of the Computer Crimes Unit, presided over a three-hour presentation in the Naperville City Council chambers. About 80 parents attended the program, and several mothers gave testimonials of how their children were negatively impacted by cyber-bullying and cyber-predators.

The event, which was sponsored by the Exchange Club, was the 11th Annual Keeping Kids Safe program. This edition was titled Keeping Our Children Safe Online.

“We want you to know when kids are out there thinking private things, talking about private things, it doesn’t always stay private,” Wistocki said. “When you give access to an awesome device (cellphone) like this, it’s like giving them the keys to the car. … We are giving them technology without any constraints.”

Many children are savvy and understand about online predators, Wistocki said, yet they still send information out to the world through file-sharing services, video, live chat and texts — and some of that information might be used later to hurt them.

A chilling example of how children can hide information from parents was detailed.

Bonnie Waltmire’s daughter Hilary seemed to be a happy girl. She had just turned 16. Mother and daughter had a close relationship. Waltmire thought she knew everything about her daughter. But on Oct. 23, 2007, Waltmire’s life would change forever.

Recalling the events of that day, Waltmire said she thought to herself how beautiful her Hilary looked as she was walking home from the bus after school. She kissed her daughter on the forehead and told her she’d be home in about an hour. When she returned, she found that her daughter had hanged herself.

A group of girls allegedly used Hilary’s boyfriend’s phone to send a text her, one that said he no longer wanted to date her. After Bonnie Waltmire examined her daughter’s MySpace page and other sites, she realized how troubled her daughter had been.

“We found all kinds of examples of bullying, of her being harassed and of her being depressed,” she said.

Waltmire said she and her daughter ate dinner together every night, yet she had no idea that her daughter was living a much different life than the one she thought she knew.

Parents often don’t want to violate a child’s privacy, but Wistocki said that if a parent has bought a phone for a child or provides a computer for a child to use, it’s the parent’s responsibility to check them.

Moms will often say, “I don’t want to violate her privacy,” Wistocki said. “Kids don’t have privacy.”

Wistocki “guaranteed” that within 30 days of attending Wednesday’s program, at least one parent would be calling him seeking assistance. The last time he gave a presentation, he said, it took only 48 hours.

He said parents must check computers and review all the images and videos to see if any inappropriate files show up.

Many children will use file-sharing sites to download music, and those sites are prone to picking up computer viruses or “malware,” Wistocki said. Also, many file-sharing sites have videos that are pornographic in nature and attract predators, which can lead to children either viewing the content or being preyed upon.

Many children use file-hosting sites such as Photobucket to upload photos or videos to sites such as Facebook. Those photos and videos can be stolen and used by others to create fake profiles and e-mail accounts.

And, when using services such as Skype, the other person involved in the chat can be recording it without a child’s knowledge. A friend today on Skype can be an enemy in six months, using the content to harass and harm a child.

Parents should assert to their child that they need to be aware of what the child is doing on the Internet. They should start talking with a child about it early on, and should monitor the child’s online and texting behavior, Wistocki said.

The key is to be tactful when talking with a child, he said. Go about trying to learn what kind of sites they are using in a casual way, maybe asking how to get a song that couldn’t be found on iTunes. Then when the child says, “Oh, I can get it from a file-sharing site,” the parent can take action to remove or block the site — and explain why.

While the hope is that children will make the right decisions, many do things they shouldn’t do. Because of that possibility, parents need to reassure a child that if they are duped by someone older or someone who is not who they say they are, the child needs to tell the parent or someone in authority. Because, as Wistocki said, “A predator may have up to 250 victims in their lifetime.”

One of the mothers attending Wednesday’s program shared the story of what happened to her daughter after she became friendly with a boy on Facebook. The daughter thought she had a Facebook friend named Jesse, who claimed to be 16. After something about the relationship struck the mother as odd, she did some digging and called police. Wistocki determined Jesse was a 45-year-old man recently released from prison, where he’d been doing time for raping a 13-year-old and shooting her father.

“Kids don’t know understand what they are doing,” he said. “Parents need to realize they are not invading their child’s privacy.”

At the beginning of the program, Wistocki noted that in a city of 140,000 people, only about 80 parents were in attendance. He said that was likely because of the belief that “my child would never …”

Sandy Blomker, a Naperville mother of three, acknowledged that parents have a lot of challenges when it comes to these issues. Even though she uses computers at work, she said she was unaware of many of the sites Wistocki talked about.

“I think it is really frightening, what kids are up against,” Blomker said.

Some tips for monitoring a child’s phone or online activity:
On a PC, to check for photos or video:

Go to Start.

Click Search.

Choose Pictures, music, video.

Next choose pictures and video.


On Windows 7 or a Mac to search for photos or videos:

Click on Finder.

In upper right is the search box.

Type in any of the following:






Computer and cellphone monitoring tools:



To check for any social network content using a person’s name:


Do you monitor your child’s cellphone and Internet use?

Tell us in the comments.

Facebook may be Enabling Man/Boy Love Relationships

September 29, 2010 at 7:42 pm | Posted in bullying, child, child abuse, children, Cyberbullying, internet, internet safety, Uncategorized | 2 Comments
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I am sure that Facebook doesn’t have enough manpower to police their site like they really should. I am sure that if someone from the Facebook HQ saw these type of sites, they would have taken them down immediatley.

The Internet is the number one destination for pedophiles because they believe that technology grants these criminals anonymity.” That’s a quote from Thomas Harrington, the FBI’s Executive Assistant Director for Criminal, Cyber, Response, and Services Branch on August 2, 2010. And given the latest news from FOX, Mr. Harrington’s statement couldn’t be more dead-on.

Bear with me, but according to the Fox article posted today, the world’s largest pro-pedophilia advocacy group, NAMBLA (The North American Man/Boy Love Association), has been using Facebook to connect with its members throughout the world. Granted, the groups/pages have recently been removed from Facebook due to the media attention, but it doesn’t diminish the fact that FoxNews.com found hundreds of links to NAMBLA’s website, and 87 NAMBLA groups (fake and real) on Facebook.

Some Facebook pages showed children as young as 4 and 5, according to FoxNews’ research. One page “features a photo of a man being kissed on the cheek by a small child. Its description reads: ‘We are the North American Man/Boy Love Association. Our sole purpose is to push forward the concept that a consenting man (18+) and a consenting minor (-18) can have a sexual and loving relationship legally.'”

Hemanshu Nigam, co-chairman of President Obama’s Online Safety Technology Working Group and a member of the board of the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children said, “‘This is just the downright filthiest of society setting up on Facebook in a public way, and the question is, ‘Why is Facebook allowing this?'”. A valid question for anyone wondering why NAMBLA has existed as long as it has on Facebook (remember: 87 groups and 100s of links).

In response to an email from FoxNews.com, a spokesman from Facebook said “Facebook is highly self-regulating, and users can and do report content that they find questionable or offensive. Our team of investigations professionals reviews these reports, removes content that violates our policies, and escalates to law enforcement as necessary.” Moderation and regulation aside, what about the groups on Facebook that have been protesting against NAMBLA? Have their voices gone unheard, or are they simply being ignored? Another valid question, especially considering Facebook’s email response to FoxNews.

Sadly, the NAMBLA movement doesn’t end there. The FoxNews article also points out that NAMBLA supporters around the world use a blog called “boy chat”to provide advice to one another on how to solicit their victims on sites like Facebook. “Users provide tips on using the site to assist others in having real-life conversations with children; share tips for evading the eye of law enforcement while trolling Facebook for victims; post changes in privacy policy of social media sites; and even suggest specific individuals to target.”

Most people would find this news shocking, and they’d probably wonder exactly how a group like this can even exist in the first place-I know I did. According to FoxNews, NAMBLA members are protected by their First Amendment rights. As a form of free speech, advocates are able to freely express their feelings that boy/man relationships are “natural”, and the only reason these relationships are currently frowned upon in society is because of malicious consent laws which aim to “harm” young people. Michelle Collins of the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children said, “Thinking or advocating for adult-child sex is protected by the First Amendment, but committing acts of adult-child sex is illegal. The challenge for law enforcement is identifying when something goes from free speech to a crime being committed”.

Laws aside, the fact is that Facebook allowed this to happen. They can say that they don’t condone groups/members like NAMBLA on Facebook as much as they want, but when it takes national media attention to get rid of the problem, it’s kind of hard to believe that Facebook actually cares about the safety of their young members.

I think James Marsh, an attorney for victims of child sexual exploitation, summed it up perfectly when he said, “Facebook has a moral and public duty to monitor and stop this activity on their site. Hiding behind legal technicalities is not enough to be a good corporate citizen in the digital age,” Marsh said. “Facebook needs to put children ahead of profits and do what Congress and the American people expect — protect our kids from criminals like NAMBLA.”

Parents, don’t breathe a sigh of relief that you no longer have to worry because the NAMBLA group has been taken down. A few clicks away, your son or daughter may stumble upon the group dedicated to: “smoking crack and having unprotected sex with strangers”.

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